Comments on: The Other Side of the Couch: Negative Self Talk. http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/ Because Fitness Isn't About Fitting In Tue, 22 May 2012 20:37:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Gerihttp://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-19251 Geri Fri, 21 Nov 2008 01:26:39 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-19251 Negative self-talk can become a vicious circle that defeats happiness and self-acceptance. You have the power to choose. To learn more read http://www.newrinkles.com/index.php/archive/the-yellow-brick-road-for-the-stressed-out-under-stress-and-just-plain-stressed/ Negative self-talk can become a vicious circle that defeats happiness and self-acceptance. You have the power to choose. To learn more read http://www.newrinkles.com/index.php/archive/the-yellow-brick-road-for-the-stressed-out-under-stress-and-just-plain-stressed/

]]> By: Kara from MamaSweathttp://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18431 Kara from MamaSweat Thu, 13 Nov 2008 05:04:55 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18431 I love Oprah so much I would never notice her "big fat arms." It's like my nephew with a cleft lip--I love him too much, I don't see the scar, just his handsome little face. BUT it breaks my heart when he says something negative about the scar. And I spose that's how I'd react to Oprah. Just wanna give her a big ole hug and assure her that those arms are fabulous. That said, it sounds like she's accepted her arms for what they are and deals with it accordingly (which is to say in a way that makes her comfortable). Can't that be healthy? To go ahead and not like something but find a way to be comfortable with it? My nephew may never embrace the scar on his lip but I'm sure he'll find a way (because he is this sort of kid) to live with Oprahesque confidence anyway. I love Oprah so much I would never notice her “big fat arms.” It’s like my nephew with a cleft lip–I love him too much, I don’t see the scar, just his handsome little face. BUT it breaks my heart when he says something negative about the scar. And I spose that’s how I’d react to Oprah. Just wanna give her a big ole hug and assure her that those arms are fabulous. That said, it sounds like she’s accepted her arms for what they are and deals with it accordingly (which is to say in a way that makes her comfortable). Can’t that be healthy? To go ahead and not like something but find a way to be comfortable with it? My nephew may never embrace the scar on his lip but I’m sure he’ll find a way (because he is this sort of kid) to live with Oprahesque confidence anyway.

]]> By: dadivastreethttp://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18307 dadivastreet Tue, 11 Nov 2008 23:47:59 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18307 I think O may have been honest for her. I do think it's important to add something to statements like that because so many do see her as a role model. As for myself, I am fighting the Bat Wing battle & have not won by a long shot. But, I am wearing short sleeves again. You don't like my arms, don't look. I am tired of being uncomfortable to "please" others. I think O may have been honest for her. I do think it’s important to add something to statements like that because so many do see her as a role model. As for myself, I am fighting the Bat Wing battle & have not won by a long shot. But, I am wearing short sleeves again. You don’t like my arms, don’t look. I am tired of being uncomfortable to “please” others.

]]> By: Rupalhttp://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18288 Rupal Tue, 11 Nov 2008 18:40:13 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18288 On one hand, I can see how these types of comments coming from an icon like Oprah can lead to body image issues in a day and age where so many equate how we look to our self worth.BUT, I can also see how making comments like that make her seem more 'real' to her audience. I think maybe in that instance she is saying something more like, we all have things we don't necessarily LOVE about our bodies and in fashion you can choose to accentuate the things you do love and put less emphasis on the other things.Either way, she could have worded it much better! On one hand, I can see how these types of comments coming from an icon like Oprah can lead to body image issues in a day and age where so many equate how we look to our self worth.

BUT, I can also see how making comments like that make her seem more ‘real’ to her audience. I think maybe in that instance she is saying something more like, we all have things we don’t necessarily LOVE about our bodies and in fashion you can choose to accentuate the things you do love and put less emphasis on the other things.

Either way, she could have worded it much better!

]]> By: MizFithttp://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18239 MizFit Tue, 11 Nov 2008 13:09:58 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18239 <strong> I think, ttfn330, that it is taped? only because it is more of a big deal on fridays when the show is live.yet another reason Im SO LONGING for insight into it all...to know if Im the only quirky one who caught the off hand remark.all that.Gayle? you busy? can you give us any insights?Miz.<strong> I think, ttfn330, that it is taped? only because it is more of a big deal on fridays when the show is live.

yet another reason Im SO LONGING for insight into it all…to know if Im the only quirky one who caught the off hand remark.

all that.

Gayle? you busy? can you give us any insights?

Miz.

]]> By: ttfn300http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18237 ttfn300 Tue, 11 Nov 2008 13:05:48 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18237 sorry i didn't catch this yesterday, busy busy. i'm a little shocked, but i'm thinking that she didn't think before saying that... it's how she really feels and it slipped out. BUT i really have no idea :) Sure, I wish she had been a little bit more careful, but noone's perfect... (does she do the show live?) sorry i didn’t catch this yesterday, busy busy. i’m a little shocked, but i’m thinking that she didn’t think before saying that… it’s how she really feels and it slipped out. BUT i really have no idea :) Sure, I wish she had been a little bit more careful, but noone’s perfect… (does she do the show live?)

]]> By: Lainie (Fitness Fig)http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18231 Lainie (Fitness Fig) Tue, 11 Nov 2008 12:36:29 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18231 No 30 Rock spoilers, please! I'm a couple episodes behind (have them on the DVR). No 30 Rock spoilers, please! I’m a couple episodes behind (have them on the DVR).

]]> By: MizFithttp://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18219 MizFit Tue, 11 Nov 2008 10:54:23 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18219 <strong> GREAT GOOGLY MOOGLY I LOVE YOU GUYS (yep. used that term instead of "you all" just for you Andrew R. thanks for the comment).The only thing which would have made my morning brighter would have been Oprah commenting <del datetime="2008-11-11T10:54:33+00:00">and even telling the Miz to shut the hell up and leave her negative self chatter ALONE</del>.I long to know what really was going through her mind inthatmoment.(Anyone watch 30 Rock?)thanks so much for taking the time to share your opinions/insights.Im still pondering the whole thing as well... Miz.<strong> GREAT GOOGLY MOOGLY I LOVE YOU GUYS (yep. used that term instead of “you all” just for you Andrew R. thanks for the comment).

The only thing which would have made my morning brighter would have been Oprah commenting and even telling the Miz to shut the hell up and leave her negative self chatter ALONE.

I long to know what really was going through her mind inthatmoment.

(Anyone watch 30 Rock?)

thanks so much for taking the time to share your opinions/insights.

Im still pondering the whole thing as well…
Miz.

]]> By: PurpleGirlhttp://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18212 PurpleGirl Tue, 11 Nov 2008 07:16:01 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18212 I doubt Oprah really thought through all the consequences and implications of her statement; she probably does genuinely dislike her arms. I'd like to think that comments like this might be encouraging--maybe someone will think "hey, Oprah is awesome, but still she doesn't like things about herself. Maybe I'm not a freak."But realistically .... it's just another example of the pervasiveness of self-directed trash-talk. Women with larger arms will feel bad about their "big fat arms". Women with smaller arms will worry about developing fat arms. Etc. I think Oprah should be more aware of the fact that she's taking part in the unrealistic, perfectionist culture, and should try to be an example of self-acceptance. That's not about what she says; it's about what she does--never wearing sleeveless shirts, for example.I can't criticize too much; it was only a few years ago I didn't wear shorts or sleeveless shirts because I was extremely self-conscious. I can't even pinpoint what changed; just one day I got tired of being uncomfortable in the heat and decided that if someone doesn't like my arms, they can just avert their stupid eyes. :)btw, Carla--I need directions if I'm coming over to clean. ;) I doubt Oprah really thought through all the consequences and implications of her statement; she probably does genuinely dislike her arms. I’d like to think that comments like this might be encouraging–maybe someone will think “hey, Oprah is awesome, but still she doesn’t like things about herself. Maybe I’m not a freak.”

But realistically …. it’s just another example of the pervasiveness of self-directed trash-talk. Women with larger arms will feel bad about their “big fat arms”. Women with smaller arms will worry about developing fat arms. Etc. I think Oprah should be more aware of the fact that she’s taking part in the unrealistic, perfectionist culture, and should try to be an example of self-acceptance. That’s not about what she says; it’s about what she does–never wearing sleeveless shirts, for example.

I can’t criticize too much; it was only a few years ago I didn’t wear shorts or sleeveless shirts because I was extremely self-conscious. I can’t even pinpoint what changed; just one day I got tired of being uncomfortable in the heat and decided that if someone doesn’t like my arms, they can just avert their stupid eyes. :)

btw, Carla–I need directions if I’m coming over to clean. ;)

]]> By: Giyenhttp://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18211 Giyen Tue, 11 Nov 2008 06:56:51 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/2008/11/10/the-other-side-of-the-couch-negative-self-talk/#comment-18211 I agree 100%! Oprah should totally watch her negative self-talk. It's what she's been teaching her viewers with this whole Eckhart Tolle series!I love me some Oprah and when I saw that, I thought the exact same thing but then felt so sorry for her too. Everybody has their demons and no amount of money can fix the insides.Monday is my favorite MizFit day! I agree 100%! Oprah should totally watch her negative self-talk. It’s what she’s been teaching her viewers with this whole Eckhart Tolle series!

I love me some Oprah and when I saw that, I thought the exact same thing but then felt so sorry for her too. Everybody has their demons and no amount of money can fix the insides.

Monday is my favorite MizFit day!

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