Comments on: Viewer mail: Spotting 101 & Losing the Guilt. http://mizfitonline.com/2009/07/29/viewer-mail-30/ Because Fitness Isn't About Fitting In Thu, 09 Feb 2012 20:03:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Andrea http://mizfitonline.com/2009/07/29/viewer-mail-30/#comment-39629 Andrea Thu, 30 Jul 2009 13:09:50 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=2835#comment-39629 this post was totally meant for me (and I'm not joking) I feel guilty when I say NO to people who ask me to spot them. Send help :) this post was totally meant for me (and I’m not joking) I feel guilty when I say NO to people who ask me to spot them.

Send help :)

]]> By: Michelle at No Time to Weight http://mizfitonline.com/2009/07/29/viewer-mail-30/#comment-39622 Michelle at No Time to Weight Thu, 30 Jul 2009 03:13:42 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=2835#comment-39622 Great post! Oh, if I could only have someone to spot me at each weight training session - would be heaven!! lol I definitely offer AND take up anyone who offers to me because I jump at the chance to get in a challenging set :-) I find as I get older, I am getting better at letting go of guilt. I am definitely not 100% there but I see a huge improvement as time passes. I think becoming a mother has a lot to do with it as I don't want my girls to have a lot of the issues I grew up feeling. Great post! Oh, if I could only have someone to spot me at each weight training session – would be heaven!! lol I definitely offer AND take up anyone who offers to me because I jump at the chance to get in a challenging set :-)

I find as I get older, I am getting better at letting go of guilt. I am definitely not 100% there but I see a huge improvement as time passes. I think becoming a mother has a lot to do with it as I don’t want my girls to have a lot of the issues I grew up feeling.

]]> By: Geosomin http://mizfitonline.com/2009/07/29/viewer-mail-30/#comment-39617 Geosomin Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:31:09 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=2835#comment-39617 Very true...guilt can hold you back from doing so many amaxing things :) Very true…guilt can hold you back from doing so many amaxing things :)

]]> By: Spring Girl http://mizfitonline.com/2009/07/29/viewer-mail-30/#comment-39616 Spring Girl Wed, 29 Jul 2009 21:43:16 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=2835#comment-39616 Sometimes I actually feel guilty about self forgiveness like I'm letting myself off too easily. It's not very helpful though. Sometimes I actually feel guilty about self forgiveness like I’m letting myself off too easily. It’s not very helpful though.

]]> By: Jody - Fit at 51 http://mizfitonline.com/2009/07/29/viewer-mail-30/#comment-39615 Jody - Fit at 51 Wed, 29 Jul 2009 21:37:05 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=2835#comment-39615 Love your posts as always! On spotting, like you, it is hard to spot others you do not know. I am in the gym when not many people are there so what I do is ask how they like their spotting.. elbows, forearms.. whatever it is. I also ask their opinion on "jumping in". My opinion may be like yours, Miz but that may not be theirs! :-) As for your guilt part, I just love reading things to help me on this. I am going to read & reread this. BUT, I have gotten to a point where I can go out on the weekends & just sit, read, do nothing much, accomplish nothing much but R&R and NOT feel guilty! Yahoo! Being Jewish, I understand the Jewish guilt! :-) PS: A small mention of you in my tomorrow post... Love your posts as always!

On spotting, like you, it is hard to spot others you do not know. I am in the gym when not many people are there so what I do is ask how they like their spotting.. elbows, forearms.. whatever it is. I also ask their opinion on “jumping in”. My opinion may be like yours, Miz but that may not be theirs! :-)

As for your guilt part, I just love reading things to help me on this. I am going to read & reread this. BUT, I have gotten to a point where I can go out on the weekends & just sit, read, do nothing much, accomplish nothing much but R&R and NOT feel guilty! Yahoo! Being Jewish, I understand the Jewish guilt! :-)

PS: A small mention of you in my tomorrow post…

]]> By: charlotte http://mizfitonline.com/2009/07/29/viewer-mail-30/#comment-39614 charlotte Wed, 29 Jul 2009 21:28:57 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=2835#comment-39614 The guilt I have also not been able to kick (although these days I'm too tired to give it more than a cursory nod) but SPOTTING, well that I have plenty of opinions on;) I'm all about the spotting after dropping two 30-lb dumbbells on my chest. Owie. The guilt I have also not been able to kick (although these days I’m too tired to give it more than a cursory nod) but SPOTTING, well that I have plenty of opinions on;) I’m all about the spotting after dropping two 30-lb dumbbells on my chest. Owie.

]]> By: Melissa http://mizfitonline.com/2009/07/29/viewer-mail-30/#comment-39612 Melissa Wed, 29 Jul 2009 19:44:15 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=2835#comment-39612 Crabby is so right: "So one trick for dealing with guilt is to think of it as an indulgence. It really is a “cheap” way of feeling better about ourselves without actually changing our behavior." My Buddhist priest therapist told me a long time ago that guilt is "a false emotion" for this very reason. I never have been very into guilt. (Maybe it's because I didn't have a Jewish mother?) I like to save guilt for when I've done something really bad. Which of course isn't often...? :-P I just substitute being annoyed with myself on the more mundane matters, like not exercising or eating a bag of Cheetos. Bears saying again that I loved that guest post a couple days ago about "Just saying yes!" That's really helping me. Crabby is so right: “So one trick for dealing with guilt is to think of it as an indulgence. It really is a “cheap” way of feeling better about ourselves without actually changing our behavior.” My Buddhist priest therapist told me a long time ago that guilt is “a false emotion” for this very reason.

I never have been very into guilt. (Maybe it’s because I didn’t have a Jewish mother?) I like to save guilt for when I’ve done something really bad. Which of course isn’t often…? :-P I just substitute being annoyed with myself on the more mundane matters, like not exercising or eating a bag of Cheetos.

Bears saying again that I loved that guest post a couple days ago about “Just saying yes!” That’s really helping me.

]]> By: Mary Meps http://mizfitonline.com/2009/07/29/viewer-mail-30/#comment-39611 Mary Meps Wed, 29 Jul 2009 18:32:50 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=2835#comment-39611 I workout solo at home, so am never in a spotter position. Guilt was tough to give up. I designed *fail safes* into my rules to help with that. As long as I followed the rules, there was no reason to feel guilty. I also changed my focus. It's not about being perfect, it's about doing better. That helped, too. I workout solo at home, so am never in a spotter position.

Guilt was tough to give up. I designed *fail safes* into my rules to help with that. As long as I followed the rules, there was no reason to feel guilty. I also changed my focus. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about doing better. That helped, too.

]]> By: bjbella5 http://mizfitonline.com/2009/07/29/viewer-mail-30/#comment-39610 bjbella5 Wed, 29 Jul 2009 17:58:05 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=2835#comment-39610 "Ahhh, Guilt. And her partner-in-crime, BFF: Shame." Love that! Great post. “Ahhh, Guilt. And her partner-in-crime, BFF: Shame.”

Love that! Great post.

]]> By: The Crazy Woman Inside Me http://mizfitonline.com/2009/07/29/viewer-mail-30/#comment-39609 The Crazy Woman Inside Me Wed, 29 Jul 2009 17:57:11 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=2835#comment-39609 Lots of great info, Carla! While I’m not Jewish, I grew up with a heaping lethal mix of Greek and Irish guilt which left me cloaked in remorse for just about everything I thought or did until the last 10 years or so. Happily, today I’m as close to being guilt-free as ever and, whew, what a relief! As for spotting, seriously, the only use of that term a non-fit, non-gym-rat woman like me is familiar with has to do with my time of the month. Aw hell, I probably shouldn’t have said that. Now I feel guilty…and ashamed. --Susan ;-) Lots of great info, Carla! While I’m not Jewish, I grew up with a heaping lethal mix of Greek and Irish guilt which left me cloaked in remorse for just about everything I thought or did until the last 10 years or so. Happily, today I’m as close to being guilt-free as ever and, whew, what a relief!

As for spotting, seriously, the only use of that term a non-fit, non-gym-rat woman like me is familiar with has to do with my time of the month.

Aw hell, I probably shouldn’t have said that. Now I feel guilty…and ashamed.

–Susan ;-)

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