Comments on: Fat Daddy Rants (guest post).

By: Veganka

Veganka — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 12:29:12 +0000

Thanks Fat Daddy for an inspiring and very honest post. Although you didn’t reach your goal, I salute you for the hard work and sacrifices that you made cause I know how hard it is to resist so many temptation.

Great job FD.

By: Camevil

Camevil — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 15:04:31 +0000

It’s a sad state of affairs when the health & fitness-minded are in the minority. Makes me long for the early 80′s when exercise was in vogue (or at least, the clothing was).

Your post really underscores how food…bad food…has become such a fixture in everyday lives. But food, unlike drugs or alcohol, is necessary for living.

Balance seems like an elusive thing, so we feel more secure doing the “all or nothing” approach. I wish there was some magic mental switch for the perfect mindset. Until that’s discovered, it will be a process of trial and error (and more error) to find ways to assimilate like the normals but still stay healthy. It can be done, tho. You can have your cake, and eat it too.

By: Debra

Debra — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 15:49:52 +0000

I really enjoyed this guest post. Thanks Miz & Fat Daddy.

By: Quix

Quix — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 15:47:51 +0000

Sounds like your head is in the right place – good for you!

I was never the fattest person I knew, but I also work in the video game industry. Which is why I stayed fat as long as I did – because there was always someone *wayworse*.

I love it, and I totally feel ya. My friends also gave me crap for being so “hardcore” – but at 265 lbs I had to do something and even now at 155 – it feels like I’m just a breath away from being back there if I don’t watch it. When I loosen up a little I can maintain, but I can’t lose. I have to totally be diet nazi as well if I want to shed any weight.

I’ve found that I don’t mind being lonely dedicated to my race training – that feels good. Lonely dedicated to my eating – torture. So I prefer to err on the side of moving more rather than eating less.

By: Hanlie

Hanlie — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 11:16:03 +0000

I really enjoyed this post, Fat Daddy. You’re right, I am the fattest person I know, and because of certain health issues I lose weight very slowly. So not only am I a Diet Nazi, but I’m not wowing the crowds with my results. Fortunately I KNOW I’m on the right track, but others don’t, so I’m subjected to all kinds of assvice and criticism.

By: Meredith (Pursuing Balance)

Meredith (Pursuing Balance) — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 02:20:05 +0000

Thank you for your honesty! I’m so glad that you’ve found such support through blogworld! Keep up the fantastic work

By: Kat Eden

Kat Eden — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 01:03:00 +0000

It sounds like you definitely have the attitude in place … over the years I’ve noticed a very clear distinction between those who achieve phenomenal change and those who get nowhere. It all comes down to approaching life, each day, with the absolute certainty that you will eat well, and you will make time for exercise. No ifs, buts or maybes. There will always be something that could be seen as more important than working out, there’ll always be a reason why you can’t be bothered preparing healthy food. But it it’s truly important to you, you’ll make it happen. It will become part of who you are, and you won’t even have to think about it. Which definitely makes it all the easier to stay on track! Sounds like you’re definitely on that path FD.

By: Wendy

Wendy — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 23:35:28 +0000

It’s lonely not just because not everyone understands or shares your dedication to your goal, but also because you don’t have food as a friend anymore. Food never was a very good friend, mind you; it never was enough, and never fills up that empty place. Here’s to the real, more positive friends we meet, IRL and online!

By: Marste

Marste — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 20:18:47 +0000

But my problem is, I just cannot lose weight and flirt with temptation at the same time. I don’t have the will power to have just one beer, or have just a small handful of chips, or just a few bites of an appetizer at Appleby’s etc. For me it’s like waving the booze under the nose of the alcoholic.
So for the most part, I keep myself isolated from temptation…and it gets damn lonely.

Yup to both those sentiments. If I’m around crap food, I eat crap food. On the other hand, if I get too isolated, I go to the opposite extreme and get sucked into the numbers obssession. So for myself, I’m still looking for the balance.

By: christieo

christieo — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 19:54:30 +0000

wow, are you right. i have felt exactly the same way for so long now! sure it is nice if everyone jumps on the bandwagon with you, but it just hasn’t happened like that in my life. eventually, one by one, people are starting to jump in with me and start getting healthy, but it seems to take so long for influence to catch on (other people have to just be ready I guess!)

But even still, i used to get so (secretly) angry at family functions where there were zero healthy options. And people would either see me nibbling a pretzel (because I’ll wait till I get home to eat) or wonder why I’m not eating enough or eating at all. Nothing like saying no to food to draw attention and family gatherings! At least in my world! (“What, are you on a diet??”)

It also still upsets me when family members get upset because won’t meet up instead of do spin class or run.

It’s a lonely world paying attention to what I’m ordering when everyone’s ordering the wings, and it’s lonely having to schedule “eating out” into my food allowances or say no to places where there are no healthy options.

I’ve finally gotten past the major weightloss I’ve needed, so I can allow a little more freedom in moving things around, but still, the healthy lifestyle doesn’t seem to match up with a lot of those around me. I wish you lots of luck and hope you find the support you need here in the online megaworld! I know I have!!