Comments on: Viewer mail: learning to say no (Kuru giveaway post). http://mizfitonline.com/2009/11/11/viewer-mail-learning-to-say-no-kuru-giveaway-post/ Because Fitness Isn't About Fitting In Wed, 23 May 2012 19:10:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Sherihttp://mizfitonline.com/2009/11/11/viewer-mail-learning-to-say-no-kuru-giveaway-post/#comment-45411 Sheri Mon, 16 Nov 2009 05:10:59 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=3848#comment-45411 It's better last minute than not at all. I am likely cutting your deadline close, but I'm here and catching up on my blog reads. I can certainly relate to the struggles, and inner resentments. I call it an inner anger at myself for the shortcomings and over sites that put me where I am now, but the merry-go-round is turning again in the right direction. It’s better last minute than not at all. I am likely cutting your deadline close, but I’m here and catching up on my blog reads. I can certainly relate to the struggles, and inner resentments. I call it an inner anger at myself for the shortcomings and over sites that put me where I am now, but the merry-go-round is turning again in the right direction.

]]> By: Jamiehttp://mizfitonline.com/2009/11/11/viewer-mail-learning-to-say-no-kuru-giveaway-post/#comment-45379 Jamie Sat, 14 Nov 2009 17:56:26 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=3848#comment-45379 Along the same lines, I've realized that I can say no to clients, too. If someone comes in and we don't really click, or I don't have the skills/desire to help them achieve their goals? I pass them on to a different trainer. I don't need the money that bad, and it'll be a better fit for all concerned parties if I'm not internally moping my way through a training session. Along the same lines, I’ve realized that I can say no to clients, too. If someone comes in and we don’t really click, or I don’t have the skills/desire to help them achieve their goals? I pass them on to a different trainer. I don’t need the money that bad, and it’ll be a better fit for all concerned parties if I’m not internally moping my way through a training session.

]]> By: 'Dreahttp://mizfitonline.com/2009/11/11/viewer-mail-learning-to-say-no-kuru-giveaway-post/#comment-45367 'Drea Fri, 13 Nov 2009 23:28:21 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=3848#comment-45367 My approach is similar to your own. I hardly ever make on the spot decisions. I usually say that I need to think it over, check my schedule and get back to the requestor and, if I'm not feeling the event or task, I say no.Completely diggin' the Halcyon - Java/Olive situation My approach is similar to your own. I hardly ever make on the spot decisions. I usually say that I need to think it over, check my schedule and get back to the requestor and, if I’m not feeling the event or task, I say no.

Completely diggin’ the Halcyon – Java/Olive situation

]]> By: SeaBreezehttp://mizfitonline.com/2009/11/11/viewer-mail-learning-to-say-no-kuru-giveaway-post/#comment-45363 SeaBreeze Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:17:25 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=3848#comment-45363 During my 1/2 marathon training I learned to schedule my workouts into my day so that they take as much priority as my homework/dates/work obligations. This way I didn't have to say no, I could just schedule around it.I'd get the RAPIDS in grey. During my 1/2 marathon training I learned to schedule my workouts into my day so that they take as much priority as my homework/dates/work obligations. This way I didn’t have to say no, I could just schedule around it.

I’d get the RAPIDS in grey.

]]> By: Kathttp://mizfitonline.com/2009/11/11/viewer-mail-learning-to-say-no-kuru-giveaway-post/#comment-45319 Kat Fri, 13 Nov 2009 09:28:03 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=3848#comment-45319 I am getting better at saying no. I have a friend who would likes to talk. I like to talk too, but she REALLY likes to talk and goes into a crazy amount of detail. Our friendship took a real dive this year when I told her I could not talk with her as much. I feel really good about this decision... I am getting better at saying no. I have a friend who would likes to talk. I like to talk too, but she REALLY likes to talk and goes into a crazy amount of detail. Our friendship took a real dive this year when I told her I could not talk with her as much. I feel really good about this decision…

]]> By: Hollyhttp://mizfitonline.com/2009/11/11/viewer-mail-learning-to-say-no-kuru-giveaway-post/#comment-45303 Holly Thu, 12 Nov 2009 22:20:39 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=3848#comment-45303 I am very bad at saying No. I will have to try the "Let me check my calendar"....Love the Black Draft shoes... I am very bad at saying No. I will have to try the “Let me check my calendar”….

Love the Black Draft shoes…

]]> By: Geosominhttp://mizfitonline.com/2009/11/11/viewer-mail-learning-to-say-no-kuru-giveaway-post/#comment-45301 Geosomin Thu, 12 Nov 2009 21:50:16 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=3848#comment-45301 What you describe is very much me. I've slowly been learning how to say no, or even not right now without guilt. I used to take on too much, feeling obligated to do things for people if I was good at them and then get angry and frazzled at the amount of things I was doing in comparison to others, even my husband. I'd crank out and complain...and He'd say "you don't have to do that you know"...but I felt obligated. It took a long time to realise that I was jsut as important as everyone else and I need to make time for myself too.Now, I try and be accomodating, but I have learned that it is OK to say no. And I agree with you about scheduling things. Becoming more organised has enabled me to look at my time schedule (especially at work) and say no without guilt - because if my day is full it is full and I can't do anything about it. I can even show the people I'm declining how busy I am and they will know why I am saying no. And I do schedule time for myself right in there...exercise too. I make sure I'm looked after jsut like everyone else. This has been a huge stress reliever for me :)As for the shoes...I like the Kruzrs in java/olive. So...mellow... What you describe is very much me. I’ve slowly been learning how to say no, or even not right now without guilt. I used to take on too much, feeling obligated to do things for people if I was good at them and then get angry and frazzled at the amount of things I was doing in comparison to others, even my husband. I’d crank out and complain…and He’d say “you don’t have to do that you know”…but I felt obligated. It took a long time to realise that I was jsut as important as everyone else and I need to make time for myself too.

Now, I try and be accomodating, but I have learned that it is OK to say no. And I agree with you about scheduling things. Becoming more organised has enabled me to look at my time schedule (especially at work) and say no without guilt – because if my day is full it is full and I can’t do anything about it. I can even show the people I’m declining how busy I am and they will know why I am saying no. And I do schedule time for myself right in there…exercise too. I make sure I’m looked after jsut like everyone else. This has been a huge stress reliever for me :)

As for the shoes…I like the Kruzrs in java/olive. So…mellow…

]]> By: Felicehttp://mizfitonline.com/2009/11/11/viewer-mail-learning-to-say-no-kuru-giveaway-post/#comment-45300 Felice Thu, 12 Nov 2009 20:59:29 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=3848#comment-45300 I really have to adopt the "let me check my calendar" phrase. That's a great idea! I really have to adopt the “let me check my calendar” phrase. That’s a great idea!

]]> By: Kelhttp://mizfitonline.com/2009/11/11/viewer-mail-learning-to-say-no-kuru-giveaway-post/#comment-45299 Kel Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:43:34 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=3848#comment-45299 Not sure where it started but I've always been good about saying, "no". I do however need to work on those rare guilty feelings. Plus as others have said, I need some work on saying, "yes". (And I do remember the "yes" post from earlier this year.)Having suffered from various foot injuries/ailments, I am sure these would be outstanding for foot health. That said, I rather like the Java/Olive Kruzr. Not sure where it started but I’ve always been good about saying, “no”. I do however need to work on those rare guilty feelings. Plus as others have said, I need some work on saying, “yes”. (And I do remember the “yes” post from earlier this year.)

Having suffered from various foot injuries/ailments, I am sure these would be outstanding for foot health. That said,
I rather like the Java/Olive Kruzr.

]]> By: emilyhttp://mizfitonline.com/2009/11/11/viewer-mail-learning-to-say-no-kuru-giveaway-post/#comment-45297 emily Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:10:58 +0000 http://mizfitonline.com/?p=3848#comment-45297 When I was a yes only woman I was under the impression that being selfish was wrong. After a long journey of self discovery, I learned that being selfish is a means of survival. Saying no isn't a negative thing, for me it's saying, I'll take the back seat on this one but you can for sure catch me another time. When I was a yes only woman I was under the impression that being selfish was wrong. After a long journey of self discovery, I learned that being selfish is a means of survival. Saying no isn’t a negative thing, for me it’s saying, I’ll take the back seat on this one but you can for sure catch me another time.

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