Tue, Jan 22, 2013
SO thrilled to be providing a guest post on Mizfit. Carla, as all of you know, is such an inspiration and I hold her in the highest of regards.
It has been such an honor to get to know her over the last few years, to have her in my circle, and most recently, to have her fabulous endorsement of my newest book – A Whole New You: Six Steps to Ignite Change for Your Best Life. And so, by way of association, that means I’m honored to have all of YOU reading this post.
Almost everyone I know wants to change something about themselves or their life, but so many of us struggle to actually do it. And so, I wrote A Whole New You to help inspire others to take the leap and create the life they want. Call it personal transformation, reinvention, or just plain old, change, I believe in it. I’ve morphed myself numerous times over the years, trying to become better in one area or another.
My passion for personal transformation started when I was 18. For as long as I can remember, I was the child picked last in gym class. As a result, anything sports- or exercise-oriented became synonymous with embarrassment. Unfortunately, this daily humiliation over a decade of time had a huge impact on my self-confidence and self-esteem. Not good.
When I got to college, however, I went through a series of events that made me realize I was tired of the way I was perceived in junior and senior high schools, and desperately wanted to change my image. I wanted to feel and look fit and strong. It was then that I started exercising regularly and eating well. In very little time, I felt empowered and confident, and I started to shed some of the hang-ups I hauled around for years.
My success relied on several factors, including my ability to let go of the negativity of the past, to make a commitment to something new, and to stick with it for the longer term. Yet, the most important factor to my success was simply that I wanted to change…that I was passionate about making my life different.
In A Whole New You, I discuss how change and transformation require some very basic principles, with the first and foremost being that you must WANT to make the change:
“Discontent + PASSION Drive Change”
It is a burning desire and a fire within that will carry you through the challenges that come with attempting change. Change is never easy, and if you don’t wholeheartedly want it, it just isn’t going to happen.
Now that the New Year has begun, many of us have resolved to change something. If you are one of these people, I want you to ask yourself one very simple question:
“How much do I want to make this change?”
Maybe you have considered losing weight. Maybe you’ve considered a job change. Or, maybe you feel it is time to quit smoking. Whatever it is, do you really want it? Can you feel a burning desire for it? If so, you are setting yourself up for success. If not, it might be time to reevaluate your decision.
Changing for other people, or because we feel we have to or should is never a successful way to begin any transformation.
Think about what YOU want.
Think about what is going to make YOU happy.
Shut out external voices telling you all of the “shoulds” and “have tos,” or worse, the “can’ts” and “don’ts.”
Only you know what is best for you and only you know what you are capable of.
Believe in yourself and be who YOU want to be and transform to build the life YOU want.
What are you waiting for?